New Year is just around the corner and I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to get rid of the old and welcome the new. What started as just another story on the evening news, completely changed our work and daily life habits, and things that have been normal in 2019, such as chatting with a friend in a nearby café, are suddenly not normal anymore. Is it even worth to make resolutions after witnessing a year when nothing seemed normal? So instead of making resolutions, I suggest releasing some things which no longer serve us.
Things to let go of in 2021
1. You don't need to be right all the time. Whether it's masks, vaccines, religion, homeschooling, there are always two sides of one coin. People, friends or family members may upset you, as they might have different opinions, but try to love them unconditionally and without judgment. 2. Let go of fixing people. Yes, inspire and educate, even coach them if you want, but don't try to help them when they don't ask for your help (been there, didn't work).
3. Let go of perfectionism. As a matter of fact, perfectionism is a disease and it can be cured. Beating yourself up for things you haven't achieved just simply sucks. Period. There is nothing wrong about striving and doing our best but perfectionism makes your life difficult as well as lives of the people around you. A perfectionist never praises other people, never delegates things (as he/she thinks no one can get the job done better than them). You can not please a perfectionist so don't even bother. Perfectionists typically want to have a perfect body, want to have a perfect diet, a perfect relationship. They are those who eat 100 percent raw, 100 percent vegan, keto, paleo, fill in the blank. But here's the thing. Nobody's perfect. Your life will be miserable if you're trying to be perfect all the time. So let go. Want to go dancing when you've got all the moves? Go dancing now. Want to go on a date when you'll find the perfect woman/man? Go on a date now. Life is too short for being perfect.
4. Let go of fast. If you should incorporate just one strategy for the New Year, let it be this one. Fast is outdated. Slow is the new sexy. Especially when it comes to eating, most of the people are so called fast eaters. They quickly swallow a meal without even noticing it. This can lead to over eating, binge eating, weight gain and metabolism dis-regulation. Take three deep breaths before every meal and then enjoy your meal. Make it a pleasurable experience. Think nice setting, calm music, nourishment.
What is the one strategy you can incorporate right now? What things from the list above can you let go of?